I found for myself, having lived communally a lot, that always having connection "on tap" actually blocked me from really owning the side of me that is just super-needy and desperate for connection. Spending some years traveling alone in countries where I don't speak the language actually helped me to see and move into that side, with my daily bioenergetics practice and pushing myself to keep going out and meeting people.
I remember reading about attachment theory years ago and the "secure" individual who had a good childhood and stuff. I'm not convinced these guys really exist though. It seems to me like some people look like happy and functional on the surface but, dig in a little, and it's clear they're really just doing whatever to hold it all together.
I like your writing.
I found for myself, having lived communally a lot, that always having connection "on tap" actually blocked me from really owning the side of me that is just super-needy and desperate for connection. Spending some years traveling alone in countries where I don't speak the language actually helped me to see and move into that side, with my daily bioenergetics practice and pushing myself to keep going out and meeting people.
I remember reading about attachment theory years ago and the "secure" individual who had a good childhood and stuff. I'm not convinced these guys really exist though. It seems to me like some people look like happy and functional on the surface but, dig in a little, and it's clear they're really just doing whatever to hold it all together.
Thanks again.